Sunday, November 9, 2014

Surrogacy Screening

Well, my last transfer didn't work unfortunately.  I was so so very disappointed.  I wanted it to work for K and T so badly.  They were such nice people and I would have loved to give them a sibling.

After the last transfer didn't work and K confirmed that they wouldn't be moving forward I decided to sign up with GG again.  I was ok going indy with K and T, for some reason I was drawn to them and I really trusted them but I don't think I could feel that comfortable going indy with anyone else.  I really liked going with GG last time.  I know they've been doing this for a while and I feel safe with them.

So, on Monday, hubby and I are flying out to L.A. for our screenings with GG.  I also got a profile already.  It's so exciting!  They seem really nice.  They live in Arizona and this will be their second surrogacy.  They have a 7 month little boy from their first surrogacy and are wanting a sibling.  Come to find out their previous surro is in one of my surrogacy groups on FB...lol...small world.  I got to talking to her and she had nothing but good things to say about them.  She can't do another surrogacy for them because she had some complications after her last C-section and had to have a hysterectomy.  GG will send my profile to the couple after our screenings come back ok.  So, fingers crossed everything goes ok and they like my profile.

Nothing much new in my life.  Still trying to loose weight, unsuccessfully.  I am about the same size or maybe a little less than when I did the surrogacy for Nathaniel so at least I'm not bigger, that's good.  It just seems like no matter what I do or how little I eat I can't seem to loose any weight.  My body is very stubborn.  The only time I ever loose weight is after I have a baby so maybe I should just keep doing that...lol.

I have also been attempting to start my own photography business which has been very interesting.  I'm not a people person so the hardest part has been being around people I don't know and having to talk to them, I not much of a talker.  I've got a photography page on FB, it's called Jenibug Photography, if you want to look it up.



I'm just getting started in the photography world and I know I've got a lot of improving to do but I'm trying and look forward to getting better in the future.  And yes, those are my girls.  Alyssa is 7 now and Zoe is 5.

Monday, August 4, 2014

Transfer

Well, we had the embryo transfer on Saturday while we were at the lake.  My bff, Cassie, came with me while our hubbies stayed at the lake with the kids.  When they did the egg retrival last week they got five embryos which is a good number for K but only two of those fertilized and out of those two, one of them arrested so we only had one embryo to transfer on Saturday.  It was an 8-cell blast and the RE said it looked better than he expected but he still only gave us a 15% chance of it working.  I was a bit disappointed that there was only one but very hopeful that it was going to work.  I had a lot of cramping Saturday, Sunday and Monday morning.  It's now Monday evening and it's starting to ease off a little, I'm hoping that's a sign that good things have been happening.  I can tell my boobs are a little more sensitive than usual and I'm really emotional today.  I know it's too early to really tell but I think it worked.  I'll probably start testing on Wednesday or Thursday.  I have my next appointment at GRS on August 13th for my official pregnancy test so I'm keeping all my fingers and toes crossed until then.

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Next transfer

We are getting ready for our next transfer which is probably going to be at the end of the month.  I had an ultrasound yesterday and my lining was 7.5 which is higher than it was when I did my transfer with Nathaniel.  K had an ultrasound yesterday too to check her ovaries and see how many eggs she had and they only saw 3.  I'm hoping she has more by the time they do the retrival or hopefully those 3 are really good.  She said they normally get 4-5 eggs and out of those they normally have 2-3 embryos.  My fingers are crossed and I'm hoping for the best.  I really want this to work out for them.  K said they are probably going to do the egg retrival on July 28th or 29th.  The 28th is her birthday.  I did my transfer with Nathaniel on August 3rd so it's been almost exactly 3 years.

We are leaving on Friday, the 25th, to go to the lake for a week with the kids and some of our friends.  We will be staying there until August 3rd.  It's going to be the last thing we do before the kids start back school on August 4th.  We can't wait and our friends are dying to go too.  They have been up there with us several times before but I don't think they've ever been for more than 2 or 3 days.  Me and the kids stayed up there for a week last summer also and had lots of fun.  The transfer is probably going to end up being during that week while we're on vacation so I'll drive over for the transfer then come back and rest.

Thursday, May 8, 2014

Test Results

Well, the test results for my HCG came back negative, none of the embies stuck.  I was prepared for it.  I had been taking pregnancy tests for several days and they were all negative.  I feel really bad for the IM though.  I really wanted this to work for her.  She is such a sweet sweet lady, very friendly and always smiling.  I know it's not my fault because I did everything I was supposed to do but I kind of feel like I let her down.  I'm keeping my fingers crossed that they decide to to another transfer.  That was the last of their frozen embryos so we would be doing a fresh cycle next time.  I have a really good feeling that if we did a fresh cycle that it would stick.  Keep your fingers crossed for me.  I really want to help this couple have a baby.  :)

Saturday, May 3, 2014

Transfer

We did the transfer on 4-25-14.  They had 4 frozen embryos and one of them didn't survive the thaw so we transfered 3 embryos.  The RE only gave us a 30% chance of getting pregnant and maybe a 15% chance of twins and a 5% chance of triplets.  The transfer went smoothly.  Tommy and I got up there to Huntsville the day before and stayed in the hotel and did a little shopping and had a nice dinner.  Before the transfer we met K and T for lunch and got to hang out and talk for a little bit.  On Monday, the 5th, I am scheduled to go to GRS in Atlanta for some bloodwork so I guess we'll find out then if anything stuck.  Fingers crossed :)

Thursday, March 13, 2014

The Perfect Surrogacy

I can't believe how incredibly well everything is going.  We've got the contracts done, health insurance and life insurance done and K has set up the escrow account.  We are still getting along great and talking about getting together again so they can meet my girls.  It's almost like a dream, it's too perfect, they are too perfect.  But I hope it stays this way.  :)  K and I e-mail or text almost every day to talk about the surrogacy or the kids or just life in general.  It's very nice.  I've already started the birth control pills to get ready for the transfer, actually I'm almost on my 2nd pack.  I had my first appointment today at Georgia Reproductive Specialists for my saline infusion sonogram/mock transfer.  They just basically had to check my uterus and make sure there wasn't any scar tissue or fibroids or anything and the doctor said it all looked good so we are cleared for takeoff.  I got my meds calendar today and I'm supposed to start Lupron next week (so exciting!).  We are supposed to be transferring around the end of April but I don't have an exact date yet.

On top of all that I am dealing with a psychotic neighbor named Kerry.  We used to get along great up until about 2 months ago.  She even gave my kids birthday and Christmas presents and our kids loved to play together and she would give us the family discount when we ate up there at Pizza Hut where she works.  It was nice.  Then one day in January her pitbull got off the leash and Kerry's daughter (about 9 or 10) grabbed the dogs' collar and tried to put her back up but my kids ran outside to talk to the little girl and they were standing at the side of our house with our dog.  Our dog has a shock collar on and uses a wireless electric fence, she can't go out of the yard.  Well, she probably could but she won't.  When the pit saw our dog (45 lb German Shepard mix) she started trying to go after her and the little girl couldn't hold her back.  The pit ran over into our yard and attacked our dog.  Before I got over to the dogs my 2 girls (4 and 6) were over there hitting the pit trying to get her off of Pepper.  I fired off a warning shot with my gun hoping it would scare her away but it didn't work.  Then Kerry ran outside and started trying to pull the dogs apart but it wasn't working.  That pit had a death grip on Pepper's neck and wasn't letting go, luckily she just had skin and not anything vital.  This whole time our kids are outside seeing the whole thing and they are freaking out.  We couldn't think of anything else to do and I really didn't want to shoot the dog so I grabbed the nearest thing I could find, which happened to be one of the kids t-ball stands, and started beating the pit in the face with it.  After what seemed like forever she finally let go but her face was bleeding pretty bad and the t-ball stand was covered in blood and the kids were hysterical screaming and crying at this point.  I got Pepper and the kids in the house and put Pepper in the bath to clean all the blood off of her.  It took a while to get the kids to calm down after that, like hours.  And Kerry came in the house when I was trying to clean Pepper up and apologized and swore up and down to my kids that she was going to get rid of the dog and that they wouldn't ever have to worry about that happening again.  I wasn't going to do anything about it but my parents and everyone else I talked to urged me to call the police and file a report. Then after she found out I filed a report she called and filed a report and said that Pepper came over there in her yard too and that they were fighting in both of our yards which is a complete lie. When that dog ran after Pepper, Pepper turned around and tried to run but only made it to the back by the kids play house before the dog jumped on her. But the cop basically said that the only thing we could do was call animal control but they would probably write both of us a ticket b/c we supposedly "both had our dogs out of our yard". It's our word against theirs so there's not much we can do. 

Well, she lied.  She never got rid of the dog and we kept seeing her off the leash wandering in our yard again.  Luckily both times we saw the dog in our yard Pepper was in the house.  What would have happened if she hadn't of been in the house and we were out at the store or something?  We would have come home to a dead dog.  I was just waiting for something to happen again b/c she wasn't keeping the dog put up properly.  Then not even a month later it happened again.  But this time we had other witnesses.  The neighbors on the other side of Kerry have a boxer that likes to come over and play with Pepper.  Well, he got out of the house and his owners ran across Kerry's yard after him.  When the pit saw him she went nuts and got off the chain again and went after the boxer.  Then Pepper heard all the commotion and ran over there to the edge of our property where they were and when the pit saw Pepper she turned and went after her instead.  We didn't know what to do.  I tried grabbing the biggest sticks I could and hitting her with it but she just wouldn't let go and they all kept breaking.  The guy that owns the boxer came over and tried to help separate them but it was no use.  So, I pulled out my gun and shot the dog.  I figured as soon as I shot her she would let go and run home.  No, it didn't happen that way.  I thought I had missed b/c she didn't let go of Pepper.  Pepper doesn't like gun shots so when the gun went off she jumped up and ran up to the bottom of the back porch stairs with the pit still attached to her.  I ran over there and when I got over to them the pit finally let go and she walked around the side of our house and I picked Pepper up and carried her inside.  She was covered in blood.  It was running all down her leg and there was blood all over the back porch and a steady trail of drips in the house all the way to the bathroom where I had to put Pepper back in the tub and clean her up.  I had to hold pressure on her leg to get the bleeding to stop.  The kids were very upset but luckily they weren't hysterical like they were the first time and one of our best friends came in when I was cleaning Pepper up and helped calm the kids down.  I immediately called animal control this time and they told me to call the cops so I did that too.  The cops showed up and filed a report but that was about it.  They said that I didn't do anything wrong and that I had every right to do what I did.

After the cops left they came and got their dog and buried her immediately.  Then the rest of the day and night they were over there acting like fools hooting and hollering and blasting their radio and walking up and down the road hollering stupid stuff.  That went on until after 11 that night.  Then the next day they would just holler stuff across the yard like "KILLER!!!" and stuff like that.  I couldn't even push my kids on the swings in peace.  Then that night after Kerry got home from work she backed her car up to the property line, opened all the doors on her car and started blaring the radio and the kids were out there "singing" and dancing.  After 10:00 we called the cops and complained and so did the neighbors on the other side of us.  They could hear it over their tv and it was driving them nuts too.  We didn't really have any problems with them after that but then I got a call from an investigator and found out that she's trying to press charges on me for "reckless endangerment".  It's a bunch of BS if you ask me.  She has her kids lying to the cops and saying that I shot the dog more than once and also that I shot my gun into the air.  Complete lies!  I fired one shot, that's it.  I have witnesses.  I was going to be nice and just leave it alone and not make her pay the vet bills or anything but after I found out she was trying to press charges on ME, oh no, 2 can play this game.  I filed a civil suit the other day to get her to pay the vet bills which was almost $500 and today I found out that she's fighting it and we're going to have to go to court.

This was one of Pepper's bite wounds the day after it happened and I shaved her up.  Notice all the bruised looking areas.  That was actually the tissue dying b/c there was so much trauma to the area.

It just got blacker and blacker and started to come off.  It was leaving a huge whole and we could see all her muscles and everything inside of her so we had to take her in for surgery to have it closed up.

This was Pepper after surgery.  She needed lots of stitches and drainage tubes.  I felt so bad for her.  She's doing much better now and she has all her stitches and tubes out and is healing nicely.  We have ordered a set of home security cameras to set up around the house.  It's sad that we have to do that but I don't trust her at all.  Well, hopefully next time I'll have better news for everyone.  I don't like all this drama.

Sunday, February 9, 2014

Match Meeting

The match meeting with K and T went great.  They are awesome people and I feel so lucky to have found them.  They are a very friendly and laid back couple.  Their little girl reminds me of my youngest.  We met them at their house for lunch at 12 and talked until 4.  They are just so easy to talk to and we are on the same page about everything.  I love that they have already gone through this once and know what to do and they are on top of everything.  We are looking at doing an April transfer so it's right around the corner.  I can't wait!  It will be here before we know it.  :D

Sunday, January 26, 2014

Round Two

I was planning on going through GG for my next surrogacy but we are going through a bunch of legal stuff with our house and GG won't work with me until that has been worked out for a few months.  I have no idea how long that will be, we've been fighting with Suntrust for over a year now and they said it should all be done by the end of November and now here it is almost the end of January and we're still not done.  To make a really long story short, we got behind on our house payment about a year and a half ago when our daughter was having some medical issues and Suntrust wouldn't accept our house payments (like we literally sent them money for the house payment and they sent it back).  They wanted to forclose on us but we wanted to refinance and keep the house.  With all the save your home programs Obama started we should have been able to do that easily but we ended up having to get a lawyer involved because Suntrust wouldn't cooperate.  And that's basicly what we've been doing for over a year now, fighting Suntrust and trying to keep our house.  I don't know why they won't just refinance and let us give them the money.  It doesn't make any sense to me but hopefully it will all be done very soon.  Our lawyer assures us that everything is going fine and that we are just waiting on Suntrust to fix some paperwork that they messed up.

Anyways, I ended up going on SMO and looking through the classifieds.  I was really cautious and really wasn't expecting too much b/c I've heard there are a lot of crazies on there but I saw one that caught my interest.  I was really wanting someone local this time and this one said Atlanta and they had already done a surrogacy before and were wanting a sibling.  I loved that they weren't newbies and already knew what was going on and what to expect.  So I sent her, "K", an e-mail and everything's been going great.  So far we agree on everything and we are supposed to go meet them next weekend at their house.  I can't wait.  I'm really looking forward to this and I can already tell that K and I are going to have a great relationship.  She's super nice and I can't wait to meet her.  I also talked to her previous surrogate and she had nothing but good things to say.  K can't have kids b/c she had severe endometriosis and uterine fibroids and had to have a hysterectomy. 

I'll keep you posted on how it goes.  :D