Long time no post

Nothing much new going on unfortunately.  We are still with S and A and according to A his sister will be ready to get started again around the end of May to beginning of July so that's not too far off.  This is what he said in one of the last e-mails he sent me..."we hope to make a decision in the next month-ish as to if/when we want to move forward.  S does NOT want to wait a whole year, because he thinks we're getting too old.  And he does have a point, of course.  So we'll know what we're doing in April, I imagine.  And try to set it up."  The only thing that has been bothering me is that "IF" b/c he seemed so sure before and now I'm kinda worried.  I should hear something else from him pretty soon and I will let yall know what they decide.  Hopefully they want to move forward and we can start getting everything set up for a May/June transfer.  I can't wait to be pregnant again. 

And if all this waiting to get knocked up wasn't enough, I just found out my sister-in-law is pregnant with her first baby today.  This "baby bug" is kicking my a$$!  I am so happy and excited for them though.  I don't have a sister and haven't really had any really close friends or anything that live near me that I have been able to share in their pregnancy experience with so this is super exciting to me.  Now I think I know how she must have felt when I got pregnant :)  I'm so glad I have such a good relationship with my MIL and SIL.  They are amazing women and two of my very best friends.
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Sticking With It

Well, I heard back from A today and he said that they are basically trying to figure out when in the next 3 to 6 months they would be able to start again and figure out some scheduling stuff with his sister.  So guess we will just have to wait and see what happens.  Ideally they would be able to start within the next month or be able to wait a year while I did another surrogacy but it doesn't look like it's going to work that way.  I was really looking forward to getting started soon and being pregnant this summer but if I have to choose between getting started right away and waiting for the couple that I know we love, I'll wait.  I have plenty of time to be a surrogate and I know it will happen when it was meant to happen.  I have already tried, without success, to move on from S and A and choose another couple and I am done.  I feel like I was just meant to do a surrogacy for them and if I have to wait then I will.

Unsuccessful Match

Ok, we flew out to L.A. last week for the match meeting with D and R.  The guys were really nice but we really got the feeling that D wasn't sure if he wanted to work with us or not.  Plus they were supposed to let the agency know what they decided by last Friday and as of Tuesday they still hadn't let them know anything.  Maybe we were just reading too much into it, I don't know.  But between that and the fact that our former IPs, S and A, have been contacting me again wanting to get started again sometime soon, we decided to let D and R go.  Only thing is that S and A haven't given me a timeline yet as to when they will be ready to start again.  I'm just hoping it won't be too long.  They were supposed to let me know something today but I haven't heard anything from them and I texted them and e-mailed them today.  Hopefully everything is ok and they aren't backing out again.  Either way I feel like we made the right decision about not going with D and R.  I know no one ever said surrogacy was easy I just never expected it to take this long to get matched.  This is getting a little ridiculous.  And I feel terrible b/c the agency is spending all this time, energy and money trying to get me matched and so far it hasn't happened but they have been absolutely great about the whole situation.  Just kinda rolling right along with it like me.  What else can you do?  I guess it'll happen when it happens and until then I am just going to try to concentrate on my life.  Gotta get my oldest baby signed up for pre-k next week.  Can't believe she is starting school...that's crazy!

Quick Update

Ok, so just a quick update.  Nothing much going on lately.  The guys talked to the Dr. and everything is fine and we are moving forward.  Hubby and I fly out to L.A. on Wednesday and do the match meeting on Thursday then fly back home.  Hopefully everything goes great.  I really hate match meetings.  They make me so nervous.  I don't know, maybe it's just b/c I'm so shy.  Can't wait to go though, and finally get to meet the guys and get on with the good stuff.  We are taking the kids to the circus for the first time tomorrow so that should be a lot of fun.  I am probably as excited as they are b/c I know they are really going to like it.  We saw one of the commercials for the circus on earlier tonight and Alyssa was watching it then a little while later she was in the kitchen trying to get me to help her stand on top of her big huge ball.  Of course I was telling her no that she didn't need to be standing on her ball and asked her why she wanted to stand on it and she said b/c the people on the commercial for the circus were doing it...LOL!

New IFs?

Well, apparently the guys liked my profile but there was one thing in my medical records that they wanted to talk to the dr about and since the dr is on vacation this week i think they are supposed to meet with him on monday.  It's nothing too serious but I guess, being 2 guys, they don't know that.  I had an early miscarriage at 8 weeks before I had my kids.  It was the first time I had ever been pregnant and it never happened again.  I didn't have a bit of problem getting pregnant with my girls and the doctors all said that it was pretty common.  So hopefully everything goes ok with their talk with the dr.  If so, my husband and I will be flying out to L.A. in 2 weeks for the match meeting.  I'm keeping my fingers crossed.

Intuition

Turns out my intuition was right about the last couple.  Part of my issue with them was communication.  We hardly ever talked and we just weren't clicking.  I think the language barrier may have played a part in that also b/c English wasn't her first language and her "husband" didn't speak english.  Plus, I didn't find out until after I agreed to work with them, that they aren't married.  I was talking to M, in an e-mail, just asking her some stuff about herself and R, trying to get to know them better, and I asked her when they got married and she didn't respond.  I didn't really think too much about it but then when I went back and look at the information page with their names and everything on it, their last names aren't the same.  Just felt like she was being dishonest way too early in the relationship.  I am so glad I am not working with them anymore.  After GG talked to them and told them that we weren't going to be moving forward they e-mailed me basicly asking me what happened and everything, which I totally expected.  So I sent them the nicest e-mail I could and I felt so bad.  I basicly told her that they are both really nice people but I didn't think we were meant to do a surrogacy together and told her several times how sorry I was.  Well she sent me an e-mail back saying that I was just "playing" them b/c they are desperate to have a baby and that now they have to "start all over" and I just "wasted all this time" for them.  To which I responded...

...  I just believe that everything happens for a reason and we weren't meant to do this together.  And your attitude in that last e-mail just reaffirms my decision to not move forward with you.  I was in no way "playing" you and never intended to hurt you or R and I am very sorry if I have.  And I didn't feel like a lot of time had been wasted.  We had only been matched like a month and hadn't even started contracts or anything.  Yeah, you and R had been going to the embassy to see if he would be able to come to the U.S. but yall needed to do that anyways.  With my last IPs we were done with the contracts in a month and we still hadn't even started them with yall.  That's why I went ahead and decided against moving forward with you now rather than later b/c we hadn't actually started anything so I didn't feel like any time had been wasted.  I could see you saying that if we had already finished contracts and legal paperwork but we hadn't.

 

I am so very sorry and wish you the best of luck on your journey.

 
Didn't hear anything back from her after that.  I'm sure it's a good thing.

I have found a new set of IFs that I like.  GG sent them my profile on Thursday of last week and I am just waiting to hear back from GG about whether they liked my profile or not.  I've got my fingers crossed that this is IT.  I'm hoping third times a charm b/c I am ready to get started and make some babies!  :)

Looking for IPs again :(

I told GG yesterday that I didn't feel comfortable moving forward with this couple.  They seemed ok with it and said that they are going to start sending me some more profiles.  The people at GG have been very nice through out this process, even with me being a bit of a pain and deciding not to work with my IPs.

Ok, maybe I was a little naive to think that working with an international couple would be the same as working with a couple in the U.S.  From my experience now, I've found out it's not.  I think I am going to stick with couples in the U.S.  We just didn't really click.  There was no connection at all and I think a lot of it had to do with the culture difference and the age difference and communication issues.  I went back and forth a lot trying to convince myself to do it but I just couldn't.  I guess it's better to end it now than later in the process b/c we hadn't signed any contracts or anything yet.

Well, hopefully third time's a charm and this will be the last set of IPs I have to go through.  Keep your fingers crossed for me and wish me luck as I try to find THE ONE.  Apparently I need all the help I can get...lol.